Recently I was contacted by a former employee (back from
my health insurance research days) who asked me to be a
reference for a job she was applying for.
I take requests like that seriously. I know how important
it is to have great people on your staff, and I don't take
it lightly when other people are relying on my words to
make an expensive hiring decision.
I found myself quite torn.
You see, this former employee (Candace) has a long history
of bad habits and poor health.
Smoking cigarettes as well as wacky tobaccy almost daily.
Drinking heavily. Eating just anything and everything in
sight and never exercising at all, ever.
I used to worry about her quite a bit and would make
subtle suggestions to her about the health implications of
what she was doing, but she never took the hint.
As a result, over the years Candace has paid a HUGE price
with her health.
She's extremely obese, and has developed high blood
pressure and chronic sinus infections.
She also has sleep apnea and has been on antidepressants
for at least 10 years.
Candace also recently had surgery for herniated discs in
her neck, for which she takes massive painkillers. She's
also being worked up for possible diabetes.
In a nutshell, Candace's habits have gotten her body into
a chronic state of acidity and it's coming out in many
different ways. Each and every ailment I mentioned above
is caused or worsened by an acid pH.
Plus, she's depending on medications to be the answer to
everything, instead of bothering to look for ways to
prevent sickness and disease and create health.
But the worst thing is, she is not honest with herself and
does not accept responsibility for what her habits have
done and continue to do to her.
So now you see my dilemma.
How can I give a glowing review to a prospective employer
when I know the person they are considering hiring is a
ticking time bomb?
Sure, Candace did a good job 14+ years ago when we worked
together, but a LOT has changed since then.
Instead of agreeing to be a reference, I decided to write
to Candace and be completely honest about my concerns for
I gently explained to her what she was doing to herself
and how her habits directly contributed to her state of
I did get a response...and let's just say my comments were
not well received and I won't be hearing from Candace again.
I knew that might happen. After all, the hardest thing
for any of us to do is to face the person in the mirror,
take constructive feedback and accept responsibility for
My letter was meant to be a wake-up call for Candace, and
I pray that someday she opens her eyes before she reaches
the point of no return.
Unfortunately, there are a lot of Candace’s walking around
today. It's not easy to be honest with yourself, admit
when you're wrong and take responsibility for your actions.
But if you don't, especially in matters that concern your
health, you can pay a very dear price--possibly with your
This is YOUR wake-up call to take a good long look in the
mirror and think about what your habits have done to YOUR
If you're overweight, have aches and pains, feel
depressed, have digestive problems, chronic infections,
headaches or many other illnesses, know this: ALL of those
problems (and more) are most definitely caused or affected
by the foods you eat.
Don't be like Candace--an ostrich that buries its head in
Your head won't be the only thing that's buried if you
continue to ignore how you may be harming your health with
It's never too late. Your body will respond amazingly
fast to a diet that is largely alkaline, filled with
digestive enzymes and creates minimal amounts of acid.
Aches and pains will go away. You'll sleep better.
You'll find you need less (or no) medication. Blood
pressure will come down, and so does the number on the
And the best part about it is that eating in a way that
helps create health can be positively delicious.